59 posts tagged “qotd”

What's the biggest leap of faith you've ever had to take?

BECOMING A MOTHER.

Over a million iPhones have been sold.  Have you: bought one, considered it, or decided it's not for you?

None of the above, but I do have an iPhone. =)

What one year of your life would you like to re-live, if you were given the chance? 
Submitted by Ross. 

I was just thinking about this the other day. As well as I'm adjusting to all the changes and impending motherhood, a part of me does miss the west coast -- but for some reason, I don't miss LA.

I'd probably relive my last year of college up until maybe September of last year. This is going to seem really square, but I miss the Fullerton era the most -- school, the internship, the boringness and the excitement, and most of all, my apartment. I'd like to relive it for the sheer fun of it all. I wouldn't change a thing.

If not that, then I'd probably re-live the first year I lived out in Cali with my mom. I would've made myself enjoy it more, and I wouldn't have let myself get depressed over a boy.

What do you have, what do you need and what do you want?
Submitted by Miss Scotch.

What I Have:

• An active baby girl growing in my tummy!
• An awesome family
• An amazing boyfriend
• Few but really enviable friendships
• Lots of love (being given and received)
• A beautiful home
• Good food to eat
• A great job

• Many from the above list
• A massage
• A little more sleep
• Cute flat shoes
• To get my car registered

• For my boyfriend to be here seeing and feeling all the amazing things our baby has been doing
• Money!
• A career that allows me to work from home and spend lots and lots of time with my kid
  

What decision changed the course of your life? 
Submitted by Ally.

Nothing has changed my life more than my decision to have my baby.

My baby girl has changed everything; not just the course of my life, but my goals, my heart, the way I take care of my body, the way I treat people I love, my entire outlook on life.

And she's changed it all for the better.

Which friend or acquaintance most influenced your taste in music? 
Submitted by Rev Stan.

A few...

I honestly hated grunge and alternative at the height of their popularity, so since high school I had always been into digging, finding stuff I liked that most people have never heard of, stuff wasn't being played on the radio. (Back then Connecticut seemed way more white, so none of the radio stations here played any rap or R&B except for a low frequency one that you could only get in Hartford.) And I was drawn to people who did the same.

Bee put me on to Esthero in high school, and then started my obsession with trip hop. Hers is a legacy. Esthero became my favorite singer and songwriter of all time.

AJ (my baby daddy) and my friend Marcus really got me back into hip hop and Latin music. Within a month of first meeting AJ (and thanks to the internet and used CD stores that were really popular in OC back then), I had a pretty enviable catalog of underground hip hop, and over the years, Marcus was always putting me onto new DJs, producers, and soul singers.

Where do you consider home?  Is it the place you grew up; the place you're currently living?  Why is it home?
Submitted by uncagedbird. 

To be honest, I never really felt like I belonged anywhere. Is that weird?

I spent almost my entire childhood in the town I live in now, and I spent almost my entire childhood wanting to leave, and I think it's mostly because my dad really hated this place and kept on insisting there were better places to be. That attitude followed me, and everywhere I moved after that (Southern California, for chrissakes!), I was never really happy. I have had two favorite places though: Irvine with my mom (had it not been for the whole boy situation, it would've been the happiest period of time of my life), and Fullerton (best apartment EVER).

In stark contrast, my boyfriend moved around a LOT while growing up. He lived in places like Indiana, Connecticut, and Korea, before going to Los Angeles. And I think he's always kind of made home wherever he was at.

I hope our baby turns out to be a mix of both of us. I hope our baby also has the wanderlust (I want him or her to see the big world out there), but can find happiness wherever he or she is.

But to answer the question, I guess home is where all my crap is.

What would you consider to be your 15 minutes of fame so far in life?

I honestly hope my real 15 minutes of fame haven't yet happened, but so far I'd have to say it was probably the height of girlsareweird.com's popularity, whenever that was. The funny thing is, my life was so unexciting at that time and I was only ever doing personal blogging, so really I was writing about nothing, and yet I don't think I've ever been met with more criticism and had more haters. It came to a point where it seemed like my traffic was being overrun by weirdos, and I actually found a blog by a complete stranger who had been talking shit about me well into the archives.

I always get the weirdos. That's why unless you know me from those days, I can't make friends online anymore. =/

People do many different things to cope with stress, loss, and "bumps in the road". How do you handle stress and hard times? 
Submitted by RedlyGal. 

I write first. And usually that only helps minimally cause while I do get to vent, I end up really focusing on my stupid feelings and it isn't really a proactive attempt to make anything better.

Other than that I try my best to get my mind off of things. I'd hang out with the boyfriend when I was in Cali, but now I spend time with my family. Or I look up funny You Tube videos or visit Engrish or I Can Has Cheezburger? and laugh until I start crying.

How many times have you had your heart broken? 
Submitted by BullDogg.

After all this time, after what I've been through and where I am now, I think I can say with confidence that, despite a number of bad relationships, I have only been heartbroken twice.

Current boyfriend really did a number on me way back in the day. I was working on my new zine and had dug up a breadth of old journal entries about the kind of stuff he pulled on me. He's the only one who counts from back then because obviously he's the only one from my past whom I really wanted to be with. But we spent about five years not knowing each other and people change. I myself had a lot of growing up to do since then and I think we're both in better frames of mind. Sometimes I wish that past never existed, that we could truly have a fresh start. But at the same time I think that tumultuous history makes us appreciate each other's presence that much more and shows us how much we can learn from each other.

The only other person who counts is The Rapper, and I think I was more heartbroken by the fact that I felt the most chemistry with him and yet it meant nothing and always would. As right as it felt to be with him and as much as we seemed to be a perfect fit, there was nothing I ever could do to make it work. He was always going to be about his career and his career would always take him around the world. It just never would've worked. I never would've been the lady on his arm at parties, never would've become his partner in crime, and most importantly, I never would've been able to trust him. I think what I had with him played a huge role in shaping my ideas of what an adult relationship should be, and without that experience, I doubt I'd be mature enough to even think realistically about having a baby right now.